On My Tongue

I have just completed reading this book. This is a chicken soup like book where the author Preeti Shenoy has shared her experiences and views about different delicacies of life. The debutante author has produced a non-fiction dealing with simple things in life that one experiences every day.

Now my view. For me, life is more like a science and I believe we all are scientists in a way or another. We all learn from our experiences and form our own hypothesizes based on our knowledge and experience to move ahead in our life, knowingly or unknowingly. That is why we are human. But most of the time we think that we know our hypothesizes very well, it’s the best and only we own it. Alas! Fortunately or unfortunately this is not the truth. Sometimes we fail to understand our own hypothesizes completely and have to suffer from its side-effects.

In the last bubblegum (as she was left with a sticky mess after her father’s death) she (Preeti Shenoy) says that she had a tough time after her father’s death when everybody left her alone. Even her so called best friends refused to listen and share her grief. It was really pathetic to read it.

I doubt if she has not found the reason (at least she has not made it clear). But I found the ‘why’ in the 5th candy titled ‘Radiators and Drains’. In this, she says that she had read somewhere that people can be classified into radiators (who leave you feeling good, happy, positive and recharged) and drains (emotional vampires, who leave you sad, hopeless and despondent).

I would like to quote her words “I am very certain that I do not want to waste my time with the drains”. And I am pretty much sure that her friends are smart enough to have the same opinion. And that’s why everybody had avoided her. Situation had changed a radiator into a drain.

One cannot claim to be a 100% radiator and surely will not wish to be called even as 0.000001% drain. But the reality on an average lies somewhere between them. A person is both radiator and drain. It depends on the situations over which we do not have our own control. Yes, the magnitude and degree varies from person to person. And when you are a drain you come to know that everybody that laughs with you is not your friend (don’t suspect Astha). But do you think this reason is sufficient enough to leave our friend when he/she needs us the most. How selfish we can be at times….what all I can say is, this is the reality of our life that will confront us a day or another; whether we like it or not.

So………… how many friends you have ………and you are friend of how many?

What will you prefer: sticking to your hypothesizes or suffering for humanity?

Do you think you can suggest any way to be a good friend without getting drained in such a situation?

Take a break and give a thought to them….

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Now some positives of the above mentioned episode. Apart from revealing the truth about her so called friends this suffering period of isolation has also made her firstly a blogger and now an author. She also made friends who helped her to come out of her pain. Although her wish to be visited by her father was not fulfilled, she got something that she had not even dreamed for.

So, to sum up what I can say for sure is, help is always available in this world and God always have bigger plans for us than we have for ourselves. So, whenever you feel uncomfortable just “Look up, look around and look in” (my hypothesis) and enjoy each moment of your life because whatever happens, happens for the good.

Thanks for bearing me so long.

Your one and only
Bhargav